Well, maybe I shouldn't swear... But honestly, I am a maganet for punks. Last night B came over and as we were talking he tells me he is "sort-of" dating someone... What is wrong with me? Just as I thought everything was going well, this happens.
Then he tells me he wants to see where things go with both of us. At first I thought whatever. But the more I think about it, the more I am not sure I am okay with it. Nor do I think I should be. It is either all or nothing... right?
I asked him if I could talk to him tomorrow and I think I am just going to articulate that sometime he is going to have to chose. While I like him, he is going to have to decide how much he likes me. While I don't mind going out with him, I don't want to be someone's ego trip.
It is funny, because I am okay in my own skin. I don't need to have 'someone' in my life to feel okay about myself. This morning I was telling my mother that I am becoming more and more apathetic toward this whole dating game. I just don't care anymore. Sure, it is fun to have someone to go out with, but I cannot let it define me.
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I think what you are saying is "who wants to be a bench warmer?"
I kinda feel like different factors would make this situation different. Example: If you had another guy you were regularly dating you probably wouldn't mind him dating another girl as well because you are doing the same thing.
Anyway, people react to competition differently in the dating scene. When faced with competition greater than myself I was almost too ready to duck out and forget about it. Was it worth it? It made me feel insecure to know that, while I would really only need to date them, I, in turn, am not fulfilling their needs or wants enough for them to only want to be with me.
The problem arises when you realize that some people can't make up their minds very well, and this is what results. It's odd that in my dating life girls seemed to come in pairs. As soon as I got one, another would pop up and so then I had to make a choice. I don't know why it hapenned that way, but I know that, for me, I couldn't date both of them and feel good about it, especially if there was any affeciton involved. I would feel like a liar, or that kissing or whatnot is arbitrary and can be enjoyed with anyone, regardless of emotional connection.
The truth is, you have to count the cost and make a choice. If you really like him you are a smart and cool girl, put up a fight and let him know that he ought to pick you. If you dont want to, and think he must be a total prig to be so indecisive, then maybe you ought to go with that and forget him, [realizing that willtake time].
Me being a guy makes giving you advice in the situation a little weird, because culturally dating lives are totally different [male often in pursuit, woman being pursued.] But I can say it seems like [SEEMS LIKE] either the guy just wants to have some fun right now with no committments OR he just doesnt know who to choose. If it's the former perhaps he isnt on the same dating goal level as you and it may be best to move on. If he is genuinely indecisive perhaps holding out a little longer would be beneficial.
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