"You came back..." M. Grey said.
"You asked before why I came back the first time. You know, I tried not to. I went on dates. I had a lot of great first dates with guys who were planning to stay guys. But you know, you have a great date and you want to go tell your best friend about it... And then you have a few bad dates. She's my best friend, she knows me, she loves me... At the end of the day, it's Donna, even when she hurts me, even when I hate her," said the patient's wife.
"She's who you want to talk to," Grey said.
"Not all wounds are superficial...
"Most wounds run deeper than imagined. You can't see them with a naked eye...
"And then, there are the wounds that take us by surprise...
"The trick with any kind of wound, or disease, is to dig down and find the real source of the injury...
"And once you've found it, try like hell to heal that sucker," Grey said.
There are those people who hurt you in life and for some reason, you return to them. You are not sure why, but you do. At the end of the day, that person is your friend, the one you trust to tell your deepest sorrows to and you are willing to look beyond one small thing because of something greater.
Not all of our wounds can be seen from the outside. Sometimes we become so skilled as to bury the wounds deep inside and put some pretty hefty fences around them. We convince ourselves that this is OK and it is the best protection we can get.
What we don't see, in our short-sighted human nature, is how hard it will be to dig out and heal that wound later on. No relationship can ever be truly functional if those wounds are not healed and often times we look other places to make us feel better and "heal" those wounds.
I say this because there are still trust issues to be worked out. If you cannot openly share with someone the feelings that are deep inside of you, your relationship is only superficial. This superficial relationship has a lack of trust and that opens the door to jealous tendencies, among other things.
I find myself struggling with this very issue. There are few people I trust my life with right now. Even still, there are things I hold back and I know that is hindering my ability to have a relationship that is deep and could maybe lead to something more. I am also a suspicious person (which is a positive for work...) I am just greatful to two very special people in my life right now who, even though they may not know it, help me to build bridges over the troubled waters in my life.
"People don't come to me to fix what's on the outside, they come to fix what's on the inside," said Dr. McSteamy, the plastic surgeon.
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