Expectations

It is funny how there are times when we expect people to do something; and when they don't we get miffed.

I was thinking about this earlier this week as I was making a bed at my grandma's house. It was a queen sized bed with lots of fluffy stuff, a real struggle.

As I was wrestling with the bedding, Trevor was playing games on the computer not a foot away. I thought to myself that he should get up and help, he should 'know' that I need help.

It was in that moment I had to chuckle because I thought about the movie "The Breakup." Jennifer Aniston's character expects her boyfriend to do all of these things and 'know' there are certain things you do to make other people happy.

I must admit I was annoyed by the movie because she expected him to have some kind of telepathic powers. Everything was his fault even though he didn't know what he was doing wrong. He wasn't being very nice and she was being stupid. It is a classic communication break-down scenario.

It only took me a short moment to realize I was being her. I had to change my thought process and realize I never asked him to help me; it wasn't something that was important to him in that moment; and I can expect that he has been raised the same way I have.

We all come from different stations in life. We don't know someone else has a need that needs to be fulfilled unless they say something.

Be careful of your expectations if you haven't talked about them; and when someone doesn't meet them, be patient and talk about it.