Sometimes we take a walk remembering our past for the wrong reasons. We look at all the memories associated with it and oftimes it brings pain. We wonder why things are continually brought to our remembrance.
"I am angry at him. Why does he keep reminding me of things that remind me of us? Does he want me to hate him?"
"Maybe that's just it. Maybe he wants you to hate him so you forget him."
Too often the memories serve to bind us in chains of pain and misery because we let them. But I believe our memories serve a more important role in our lives, if we will let them. They serve to show us progress or to bring us to a remembrance of what we once were: our hopes, our dreams, a vision we once saw for ourselves.
I saw P.S. I Love You and as I sat in the theater, I thought to myself, "Oh, great. Another sappy love story about two people who can't stand the thought of living without one another" (I had a pretty cynical attitude that night). As the movie went on, however, I began to realize it was much more than another sappy love story.
It is a beautiful movie about love and devotion. Also, it teaches in a poignant way about loss, dealing with it, moving on, grief, and pain. It teaches lessons about anger, moving away from denial, taking down walls, and learning to open your heart again.
There are memories we hold on to because we don't want to be alone while the world around us seamlessly moves on. But while we are holding on to those things, we aren't progressing. We end up shutting the rest of the world out and with walls no one can take down but us.
The screenwrite continues:
"He's not coming back is he?"
"No, he's not. So you have to stop waiting for him."
Most of what happens in our lives comes, has some kind of effect, and goes. But we can't hold on to it and/or wait for it to come back. We must dig back into our elephant memory banks and remember the optimistic visionary on the lane that day.
While looking back down memory lane, I remember that girl. She was bright-eyed and had a vision for her life. Somewhere along the way she got lost. I'm looking to bring her back with me, beyond the walls and on to a new adventure!
The sun will come up tomorrow, that is for certain. What I chose to do with that day, however, is up to me.
1 comment:
It's weird how movies can relate to so many experiences in life. When I see a romance movie, the things that happen in the stories can't help to make you think! Did I do anything wrong? Should I try to act or say the same things that worked in the movie? Funny how it can fool you, and make you believe it's reality sometimes. How would it be if it could all fall in line like the movies? Maybe that's what makes it such a powerful thing, and why people catch on to certain stories so easily. As far as memories, it's easy to forget the bad ones by moving on and trying new things. They might replace them with good ones! I learned that were only human, and who cares about the dumb things I did! Remembering the fun things I did as a kid is what I like to do. One of my songs called Do You Remember is based on that, so life would probably be boring if we couldn't remember our past!
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